Wasn’t this what College was for?

Happy Thursday!

I knew my 24th birthday came and went too easily. Identity crisis was soon to follow. Initiating full panic yesterday afternoon.

I’m struggling friends, I’m struggling with deciding what I’m supposed to do with the rest of my life. Now, more than any other point in my life, I’m completely lost on what my life is leading up to. I’ve always been such a driven individual, with clear goals and the motivation to get there. But lately, I’m feeling unsettled and frankly, completely lost. Isn’t this what college was for?

Source for quote/Graphic made by me

At my core, I am an all-or-nothing person. People who really know me, know when I get a pet fish, I will know EVERYTHING there is to know about that fish. I’ll spend hours on forums making sure his behavior is normal, that his tank is the right temperature or that he is happy. Within the first month, they’ll see him in a 10 gallon tank with his decorative rock and live plants changed twice a month. And they know that when he died, I cried like an absolute baby (Truthfully, I’m tearing up right now writing this…Miss you Avatar). I don’t do anything lightly my friends, even owning a $2.99 fish. This is my explanation for why I can’t just “try” something out and hope it works out. It will either work out or I will make it work out.

Avatar, the best betta I ever knew.

I graduated college 2 years ago and was incredibly fortunate enough to get a research position in the field I majored in at a well known Neurodevelopmental Institute. Graduate school was ALWAYS on the horizon but I purposefully chose not to apply while I was in college because I wanted to enjoy my last year of college and because I wasn’t 100% sure what program I wanted. So I started work full time, but grad school was always in the plan.

Fast forward 2 years and I’ve realized that research isn’t what I want to do for my life. This takes a Ph.D. out of the running since it involves an intense amount of research. Now I’m left to ponder Psy.D programs or Masters programs in Psychology for grad school. Then, I started this blog and discovered my immense passion for event planning, crafting and photoshop. At parties I’ve planned for work, one of our psychologists even mentioned that I could make more money party planning and suggested I look into it seriously. After months of receiving those compliments, a dim lightbulb started to shine brighter and brighter, until it started to overshadow the plans I had made all along.  This new creative side that I didn’t even know existed is competing with what my logical self has been planning on for YEARS. Could I really make a living out of my hobby? What about all the work I already did for my degree?

So now I’m stuck.

Stuck because I’m not sure which psych graduate program I want to apply for (All I know is I want to counsel somehow)
Stuck because I can’t shake this feeling that I could maybe do what I love everyday and even get paid to do it?
Stuck because I’ve worked so hard to gain experience and knowledge in a particular field already.
Stuck because the honest truth is I have bills to pay, student loans to pay off and I can’t do that on a dream alone. Now a degree, it does pay and no matter what anyone says, money has to count for something.
Stuck because grad school is expensive…and more loans won’t help with the next point below this one.
Stuck because I’m 24 and (I’m going to be frighteningly honest) I want at least 1 kiddo before I’m 28-29.
Stuck because I desperately miss being in school and I know I’m meant for more education someday, somehow.

Basically every thought in my head contradicts itself. I didn’t even mention that my ultimate goal in life is to first and foremost, be a Mom someday, and a good one at that. This will probably mean staying home with the kids for at least a year or so in the beginning. So all these things combined, I swear my head is going to explode. I want it all friends.

 WHY can’t we have it all?

I’m not begging for advice or suggestions (although they are welcome, I mean I did pour this all out on you and you’re still reading) but if anything, I’m looking to know I’m not alone in my complete and utter confusion. When you chose to continue schooling, or when you chose your career path, was it as clear as day? Are you currently still in the dark like me? Did you feel like the path you chose was what you were meant to do? This article was on Facebook the other day and it was SO relevant, it hurts. Read it!

LOL love this. Source

Sorry if this blog post is somewhat of a debby downer. At the end the day, I’m incredibly lucky to have attended college, to have great options and the time to pursue them, now if only I could just live and let live, I would enjoy my 20s more!

Plus, I’ve already got Rob and that’s half the battle isn’t it? Someone to weather the storm with? And celebrate your success?

Don’t forget you can still totally join in with Let’s Get Physical October! Link up is open until Friday at 11:00 pm PST.

Even if you don’t have a blog to link up or for them to visit, stop by the blogs of the ladies who linked up and give them some encouragement because their participation really made my day! Plus they rock, simple as that.

Thanks for reading ❤

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Weekend Awesomeness

Happy Monday lovelies!

I had a pretty fabulous weekend and that makes starting Monday off EVEN harder. I also realized that Sunday nights are the HARDEST nights to write entries when you’ve had an amazing weekend. Sooooo sorry I’m not sorry…Lol

Despite telling you all I had virtually no plans this weekend, that was a lie. Rob and my fabulous friends threw me an AMAZING surprise party on Friday. We had a nice dinner at Mikunis (sushi nomzzz) and went back to Rob’s for some beverages. And by some beverages, I mean LOTS of dranks. The after party was the best part and everyone got along so well and had a ton of fun! We even had s’mores by the fire to finish the night. I haven’t laughed as hard as I did that night in a longgggg time and I’m so unbelievably thankful for all the work Rob put into it. I love you boo! Thank you to all my friends for making it out!

In the midst of the madness, Rob and I managed to not get 1 picture together. Boo.

And no Mom and Dad (+Family that read my blog), I didn’t even drink much! I was having too much fun naturally to even have to drink 🙂

Okay, that’s end of my birthday talk. No mas!

Yesterday, I went to my lovely friend Caitlin’s birthday party with a bunch of my sorority sisters. I don’t get to see them nearly as often as I’d like so I was happy to spend time with them. Caitlin is one of the sweetest girls ever and it was wonderful to celebrate her birthday with her!

And because I clearly don’t have my own shiz together, here’s some blogs that do!

This one is for the ladies who love to do their own manicures!

My dear friend Lyss has finally taught me how to add washi tape to my blog!

This wall art is so beautiful, further proof I clearly need a Cricut or Silhouette.

I’ve pinned this time and time again but it’s time to make these already!

If only I had known this trick in college!

Let’s Get Physical Link up, THIS Wednesday October 3rd! Get your Confessions, Facts and Goals ready!

Have a great day! 🙂

25 before 25

Happy Wednesday everyone!

So I’ve been trying not to make a big deal about my birthday because more often than not, I stress myself to high heavens about planning the perfect party with all my friends there and it never 100% pans out. Now with even more of my friends in grad school in various parts of the US, I decided this year I would plan absolutely nothing. And it’s been so wonderful, I feel like this day snuck up on me and it was a really pleasant surprise. For a long time I had been planning on this list of things I want to accomplish by next year and since “25 before 25” had such a nice ring to it, here goes!

  1. Go on at least one international trip.
  2. Get rid of all the clothes that don’t fit me anymore (no excuses!).
  3. Legitimately run an entire 5K, no walking.
  4. Spend some time thinking about what truly makes me happy, and go after it.
  5. Eat at least 5 (new) meals that make my eyes roll to the back of my head.
  6. Find that “signature dish” that I can bring to potlucks, parties etc.
  7. Create that beautiful desk space I’ve been dreaming of.
  8. Drink at least 1 exorbitantly priced wine.
  9. Reconnect with 1 friend from the past (learn to forgive…).
  10. Plan a dinner party with friends.
  11. Do more things on impulse (minus shopping.. eek).
  12. Quit buying uncomfortable heels/shoes that I don’t really want to wear.
  13. Send more postal mail because it’s so much better than anything you can send virtually.
  14. Put away a legitimate amount of savings a month. Don’t shortchange yourself!
  15. Do at least 2 things that completely scare me.
  16. Pray more and Thank God more often.
  17. Tip an outrageous amont for at least 1 meal where the service was above and beyond.
  18. Learn how to sew.
  19. Put some serious work into my fitness journey.
  20. Donate to a charity or find a cause to fundraise for.
  21. Hug my brother and sister more often.
  22. Keep growing my blog but know that what matters most is the quality of reader.
  23. Do more nice things for Rob because he’s the best.
  24. Cook at least a meal a month for my family.
  25. Most importantly, when the going gets tough, remember how lucky I am to live my life (pity yourself less).

I asked a few of my favorite bloggers to send me some birthday advice or to share what advice they would share with their 24 year old self and I’m so happy with the response I got:

Eat More. Drink More. Travel More. Nuff said. – Rima at Bolu by Rima

Start each day, like it’s your birthday. – Kristine at The Foley Fam

If I were going to tell my 24 year old self something it’d be to figure out what exactly you think you want out of life/work/etc and go for it. It’s much easier when you’re younger. Just do it. And if you change your mind along the way, that’s okay. Have fun with your friends and family. Take chances and do the things you love. Tuck away some money into a savings account because you never know what may happen. Life does go on. A lot of those things I tell myself now too. I don’t think that much changes as you get older. Or maybe in my head I’m just still a lot younger. I don’t know. 🙂 – Melissa at Insert Sarcastic Remark Here

Don’t be afraid of the future.  You can do anything you want at 24 and all the decisions you make now lay the foundation for your future.  Don’t be afraid to make the decisions that will make you happy. – Brighton at Dear Brighton

Be flexible. Be open for change… Change within yourself and change within others. You have to learn to forgive yourself as well as others because mistakes will happen and there will be plenty. Lastly, it’s ok to let go and often times it’s necessary for you to heal and move forward. Learn to let go of pride, sadness, anger and sometimes you have to be willing to let go of people too. Mostly… Enjoy life, live in the moment, love and embrace the people around you and mostly embrace and accept yourself. – Chris  at Chubbette Tales

Don’t you just love them?! Because I do! Thanks ladies!

Feel free to leave me birthday advice or tell me what you would tell your 24-year old self!

Quick shoutout to my parents, my 24th birthday wouldn’t be possible without you two! Love you!

Have a great day lovelies!

Thankfulness Thursday: Family, Disney, Travel

Happy Thursday everyone!

So today is my Friday because I am OFF tomorrow! Woo hoo! I’m feeling so lucky lately that it felt like a good time to link up with Ashley for Thankfulness Thursdays.

The thing I’m most thankful for is the health of my family and friends. We can get so wrapped up in the long term picture (getting through school, paying off student loans, saving for a house, etc) that we forget what a blessing every day is. I found the Rockstar Ronan blog yesterday and I won’t lie, I cried. Bawled like a baby. If you have a some spare time and a few tissues, click away.

I’m thankful for the closeness of my family. My sister begged me for sister time so we went to get mani-pedis yesterday. Then my brother crawled into bed to watch TV with me before bed. They’re such a blessing to me.

My sister is a gangsta. And yes my dog is wearing a sweater.

I’m so thankful for the sweet comments on yesterday’s blog. I’ve got big dreams of starting up a party planning business someday and everyone’s comments meant a lot to me. Thank you. And yes, I’ll plan ALL your parties. Holler at me when I get going 😉

I’m thankful for my parents allowing me to live at home so that I can save for all the expenses of life. And it gives me the capabilities to take a few vacations (more on this later today…)

I love them!

Now a few “for fun” thank you’s:

I’m thankful that The Office at least gets a “farewell” season. Even if it makes me cry a little.

I miss you everyday Michael Scott. Source

I’m thankful for Starbucks having free wi-fi?!? When I worked at Starbucks 5 years ago, you totally had to pay. Also thankful for a Salted Caramel Mocha. YUM.

I’m thankful that the Backstreet Boys are back together and making a new CD!

Hallelujah! Source

I’m thankful for new fall TV like Go On and Guys with Kids. Hiiiiilarious.

I’m thankful that the Denver Broncos have my favorite quarterback ever. Peyton Manning and Denver was my NFL dream.

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I’m thankful that Rob and I have annual passes to Disneyland so we can go as often as my little Prius can take us.

Luuuuucy, you’ve got some ‘splainin to do…

Okay so I have to address the fact that Rob and I are always “going somewhere”. We are not loaded, nor are we big travelers (yet) and I don’t want everyone to think I’m a vacationing tool fool. So here are the facts:

1. I have a wonderful, well paying job working in the field with the major I graduated with. But at the end of the day, this position just isn’t what I want to do with my life. When you work a job that isn’t necessarily your passion, sometimes a weekend away isn’t just wanted, it’s needed. For my sanity. So more often then not, I’m begging Rob to venture into a different city for a day or two.

2. Along with the blessing that is my job, I’m given an extraordinary amount of vacation time that I’m forced to take. I know, pity me.

3. With my very first big girl paycheck, I bought a Prius for a steal. 2 years later, I swear that car has MADE me money, best car for travel ever! It was worth every penny (We can get to LA and back for roughly $70 in gas). I highly recommend the Prius, feel free to ask me any questions about it.

4. As AMAZING as my family is, I’m almost 24. Living at home. With a boyfriend of (almost) 7 years. Somedays, I just gotta get away for a day or two (and frankly, I’m sure they’re glad to have one less mouth to feed!).

5. For all you non-Californian readers, California is an AWESOME state (arguably the best one, duh). California is loaded with all different climates, cities, communities and frankly a ridiculous amount of beautiful places. One of the BEST parts of living in Sacramento is that nearly everything is only 2-3 hours away. 2 hours away from San Francisco, 2 hours away from Tahoe, 2.5 hours from Santa Cruz and only 1 hour away from Napa (wine country). City, snow, nature, beach, wine all in arms reach! Trust me, it’s a blessing and a curse. And LA is only a mere 6-7 hours away (an easy car ride for a Prius 😉 ). That gives us a LOT of places to go on the weekend.

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6. Lastly, check out the prices for a Disneyland Annual Pass. We got the Premiums. We need our money’s worth right? You freakin bet we do.

So I mean, all these trips I take, they’re my little sanity-savers. And it’s easy, cheap(ish) and do-able since we are still without children. Still hate me and all my travels? Move to California, get a Prius and be my best friend so we can take trips together (seriously though, do it)!

Okay, now that I’ve explained myself (and our incessant travels), can we be friends again?

((Sidenote, all my sarcasm is out of love, if I were you guys, I TOO would wonder how in the world I get to “vacation” so often. No hard feelings, I LOVE YOU!)

On that note, we miiiiiiight driving to LA tonight. Plans are tentative but there is a 90% chance Rob and I will be reunited with our home away from home! (Disneyland meet up anyone?! 😉 ). Do you hate me again? Darn it.

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HAPPY WEEKEND everyone!

Headed South for Labor Day!

Happy Thursday everyone!

I am SO excited because Rob and I are headed back down south this weekend! My little brother is playing a football tournament in Thousand Oaks on Saturday morning but we’ll mostly be in the LA area (staying over by Santa Monica).

Honestly, I’ve been a little nervous about posting this but I am ALL IN for meeting some SoCal bloggers this weekend! If you’re interested in meeting up, shoot me an email!! We have no idea what our plans are but we’re probably hitting up CA Adventure on Sunday mid-day to night and I’d love to do Monday brunch before heading back? Honestly, I’m down for anything. Let me know if anything good is going on this weekend 🙂

What are your recommendations for Southern California? Rob and I are always looks for new restaurants, shops and markets to go to! Especially brunch spots!

Do you have any plans for Labor Day Weekend?

Also, go enter my dear friend Emily’s Blogiversary Giveaway! She giving away ad space with some of my favorite blogs!

Happy Day before Friday!

P.S. Rob and I have a friend in the hospital who could really use all the good thoughts and prayers everyone can send. Say a little prayer or send a happy thought his way if you could. Thank you ❤