Loving Lately: Sweaters

Happy Tuesday everyone!

Despite my undying love for dresses and sandals, I can’t HELP but feel so excited about fall fashion lately. My mind is constantly thinking about my fall sweaters and cardigans. I decided to link up with the lovely ladies CarlyKristenNiki & Rachel for Loving Lately and I need to purchase these stat!

Sweater Love

Link up today!

I’m feeling a little anxious for fall because my birthday is coming up. Another year older, le sigh. And even more of a reason to get my bee-hind in shape (who knows when wedding bells will ring 😉 ).

Yesterday, I went to a “Hot Hula” class at the gym for the first time. I actually used to do Hula and Tahitian in high school so I was like “no prob, just an easy workout to ease myself back in.” WRONG. Within the first 5 minutes, my quads were on fire. I remember hula being a decent workout but my hip joints definitely don’t have the flexibility they used to. It was a challenge and my back does hurt a little this morning from popping out my bootay (lol) but overall, I feel good.

Also, Rob and I watched The Vow yesterday and I liked it! Everyone knows Channing Tatum is a hot piece of man candy but I wasn’t entirely sure about his acting skills in a chick flick (and no I haven’t seen Dear John yet). Anyways, I was pleasantly surprised and it definitely got Rob and I conversing about what we would regret most if something tragic happened to us tomorrow. I was overjoyed to hear his answer was the same as mine (I’ll leave you to wonder what that was). It’s silly but sometimes even a romantic movie can make you suddenly feel very lucky to have everything you do.

Lol (I could find a good source but here’s where I got it)

Do you love sweaters as much as I do? Have you seen The Vow? How do you feel about Channing Tatum’s acting chops?

Have a great day everyone!

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Simply Baking: Avenger Cake Pops

May 10th holds a special place in my heart for two reasons: 1. Rob, the love of my life was born on May 10th and 2. I made my first set of cake pops on May 10th of last year. I like to think my first set of cake pops created what Simply Evani is today because it opened my eyes to an entire world of crafting and baking I didn’t know before!

Rob and I started dating on Nov 12, 2005, our senior year of high school. Last year, my first cake pops were football themed for his birthday and this year, The Avengers came out with perfect timing. I wanted to try something new for me so I decided to go with upside-down cake pops and flag decorations. I’ll just let the pictures speak for themselves!

The flavors were all White cake with either Strawberry or Caramel icing. I brought them to Rob’s office and got equal compliments on both flavors but I was personally partial to the Strawberry. I was told the Caramel tasted similar to Butterscotch.

The cake pop colors were created with Wilton candy melts. I made the flags with cardstock and images printed off the internet and attached them with the ever handy E600 glue.

If you would like the Printables, I made them available here for download!

What do you think of them?? I’m always trying to make “masculine” cake pops, did I pull it off?

Happy Birthday to my love! Thank you for being in my life for the past 6 years and I can’t wait for many many more!

 

The trouble with love is

A lot of my girlfriends have been having guy problems lately and I thought it was about time f0r a blog on love. Now before you nay-sayers (the ones rolling your eyes) click away from my page, I promise it won’t be full of the reasons why Rob is the best boyfriend in the world (although he is) and it won’t be filled with sappy love stories (even though I’m FULL of them). I know I haven’t been single in awhile but if anything, I’ve lived vicariously through my girlfriends and the problems they’ve had with men. So here are my observations on bagging a good man and other thoughts:

(*Disclaimer: If you’re not interested in finding a boyfriend, than these points may not apply to you. I don’t want an e-mail from an outraged reader who “doesn’t need a man and therefore doesn’t need my help”. Lol, I understand it’s not for everyone)

Men.

1. Date at least 1 bad boy, and get him out of your system. I believe the #1 problem with most women and love lives, is their taste in men. My advice: Date at least 1 bad boy, get burned and move on. Something about a bad boy is so appealing because they’re adventurous and unpredictable and sexy. Well, often times those exact traits are the recipe for a cheater. And adventure isn’t found in a person, it’s found in the things you do when you find someone you want to adventure with. Anything is an adventure as long as you find someone to enjoy it with; it’s all a manner of perspective. Also, in matters of taste, the guys who are overlooked are often times the ones worth our time. Shy guy in the corner is more likely to work harder at a relationship than life-of-the-party who has women all over him at the club. Does it take more work to get to know shy guy? Probably. Worth it? I think so.

2. Make yourself worth the wait. First way to turn a future boyfriend into a short-term fling is to give away too much too soon. I know plenty of people will call me prude or old fashioned, but I genuinely think that sex is something that should be reserved for two people who have agreed to maintain monogamy. And “I think we’re dating” or “He’s acting like we’re a couple” don’t count. I mean legitimately a couple, verbally expressed with sincerity. But aside from sex and hooking up, even making yourself too available to him is a no no. I’d say for the first couple dates, space them out in a weekly manner and reserve flirty texts for the days in between. Once things become more solid, allow him to jeopardize more of your schedule but until he makes you a definite priority (aka girlfriend status) don’t cancel your plans or make him a priority. A big mistake I know many girls do is as soon as they find a guy worth dating, suddenly they drop off the face of the planet to their friends but they always seem available for time with the guy. In the beginning of any relationship, less is more.

Thanks a lot Disney

3. Setting the bar too high is setting yourself up for failure. So to say that my girlfriends and women everywhere have high expectations, is an understatement. Especially the older we get, the more we tend to expect from men, whether it be income, goals and aspirations or even personal hygiene.We expect a guy past the age of 21, to not look and act like a neanderthal. Granted, I think that is fair. However, years of telling ourselves we deserve better (after that jerk that broke our heart 5 years ago), there comes a time when we expect too much of men. The truth of the matter is (Dear males, this may incite rage) Men need to be trained. And yes I wrote that statement with full knowledge Rob will read this and he won’t be offended, let me tell you why. Women are crazy. Biologically, we drew the short end of the stick when it comes to emotions and we are straight up crazy sometimes. The trick to mine and Rob’s relationship, he now knows how to handle my crazy. So here’s the deal, no guy is perfect from the get-go and it’ll only drive you more crazy if you expect that much. Disney’s Princes unfortunately are NOT real and therefore we should make do with what we have (LOL jk men) and set realistic ideas of men. I’m not saying date just anyone, I mean when you find a guy worth the time, give him the benefit of the doubt that he just didn’t know better, before jumping to conclusions.

Trust

4. In a somewhat contradictory point, Trust your gut. The lecture I mentioned two posts back had an amazing point about trusting your instincts. Dr. Ruiz said that all it takes to make a good decision is to have 40-70% of the facts and data. When I heard this statistic myself, I was skeptical since he was a surgeon and I would prefer my surgeon to have 99-100% of the facts. But when he explained that under 40% is too little knowledge and that attempting to achieve over 70% is usually unrealistic and unlikely, it seemed to make sense. This point is more to my girlfriends who have been burned by guys or may be currently doubting their relationship. If you have 40-70% of the facts, that’s enough to make a decision. If you don’t have 40%, don’t act rashly. If you’re trying to get over 70%, you’re prolonging a decision you’ve already made. AND frankly this really applies to men who are cheating. If you 70% believe your man is cheating on you (and I mean you truly believe that, as well as others around you), then you’re most likely right. Along with our god-given hormones, came a strong ability to read emotions.

He will come home!

5. Be thoughtful and  selfish at the same time. When you’ve almost got him hooked and you think it’s goinggreat, take a step forward by taking a small step back. A big problem with women and relationships (even friendships) is that when we’re invested, we’re INVESTED. Suddenly all we want to do spend time with said boyfriend/friend when in actuality, that clingy-ness will kill the fire. Guys too get wrapped up in love, suddenly wanting to see us 3-4 times a week and sometimes ditching that Monday night Guys night, for a cuddle sesh with yours truly (hehe). But I suggest finding ways to be thoughtful without having to constantly being around. Slip an extra $10 in his pocket while you force him out for Monday Guys night with a post-it that says “Have an extra beer (or 2) on me!”. Or offer to have his guy friends over for some home-cooked food and some poker, while you host but stay out of the way. At the same time, make sure to still do the things you enjoy like salsa night with your girlfriends or that spontaneous trip to Vegas you’ve always been planning. It’s especially important to make personal time important in the beginning of a relationship, because it sets the tone for the rest of the relationship. This was a lesson learned from Rob and I, when I was virtually incapable of sharing him for the first 6 months of our relationship. Hence, 5 years later we’re still struggling to get adjusted to “me” or “him” time and although we love being together, it makes a couple stronger when both partners have some personal time.  We’re getting better at it but it’s still something we’re working on 🙂

6. Lastly, Have faith and stop looking. The more you look, the faster they run. Go out to more places than you normally would, and legitimately have a good time. Whether its a club, a bar, restaurant, the less you look like a hawk on the prowl for prey and the more you look like the life of the party, the better. I’ve always heard that the more time you spend looking for a man, the harder it is to find one and although I have no personal experience in this, it logically makes sense to enjoy yourself and maybe fate will just send one your way. Just think, by having a good time and looking great (which is already a positive) you may just stumble upon a relationship you never had before (double positive). AND there are plenty of women who have fun without ever needing a man so more power to you!

I don’t know if any of this is helpful or not but it worked for me, so I guess its worth a shot? Good luck!

Feel free to leave me a comment with feedback or just to say hello! 🙂

Bahaha I could not resist